Friday, July 30, 2010
Back to School
Back to school this year takes on a new meaning for me. The twins will start Kindergarten. And I just got accepted to Georgia State University. I am a little sick about it. What was I thinking? I don't know that I want to go back to school. But for some reason I am. It is making me anxious and nervous when I think about all my responsibilities. I am just not sure if I can do it all. I guess we will just have to see how it all turns out. I am a wreck!
Friday, July 16, 2010
The Engagement
Shay would get this look on his face. Like he was intensely thinking about something. I would ask, "What are you thinking about?" And he would quickly come up with something, Uh uh, and then say some random thing. Knowing him now, Shay is a thinker. He loves to think and day dream. He did this often and I was always curious what was going on in his mind, I was soon to find out.
Shay took me to meet his family. We had known each other for six weeks. I had already met his dad when he came for a visit. He was great, so I wasn't too nervous. We drove to Washington, his mom filmed part of the visit and looking back I can't help but wonder what they thought of me. I was SOOO young.
That night Shay was tucking me in on the couch. He got that look again. I gave him a minute before I finally asked him what he was thinking. "Well, I was just wondering what it would be like to be with you forever."
"I think that would be nice." I replied.
And just like that we were thinking we might just be getting married. I finally fell asleep with thoughts of white dresses and love eternal.
The next morning I woke feeling the same, but Shay seemed very nervous. Are we sure? Is this too fast?
We went on a walk and talked it out. Prayed and went home to tell his parents.
We came home to Provo. I called my Momma, she wasn't home. So we called my Daddy. They didn't really know I was dating anyone. I just never mentioned it, not knowing how it would turn out or if it would turn into anything. I had dated a couple of guys in Provo and didn't feel the need to mention everyone to my parents. With kids of my own and thinking of how it all went down, I am pretty sure I would react how my Momma did. My Dad took it really well. Does he have a temple recommend? Yes. Did he serve a Mission? Yes. Does he treat you well? Yes, very well. Have you prayed about it? Yes. Okay then.
It was almost so emotionless that I felt bad. But then we called my Momma and I was grateful for how my dad reacted.
We called my mom at church. She was helping with the scouts on Wednesday night. Now I wish I would have waited and called her at home, but I was anxious to tell her. My little brother Joseph went to get her. This is how it all went down.
Momma I am getting married
very calmly- You're lying to me
No momma I'm not
Less calmly- You're lying to me
No I'm not
Much less calmly and very loudly- YOU'RE LYING TO ME, repeated multiple times and dropping the phone.
Joseph- Momma she is not lying to you, just talk to her.
I am not going to talk to her right now, I will call her later.
Joseph please get her to call me at home so we can talk.
Joseph- okay.
Wow, typing it now makes my stomach hurt. I almost feel like crying. It was tough. But what else could I expect? She never wanted me to come to Provo in the first place. You will get married and never come home, she told me. I assured her that wouldn't happen and here I was telling her, her worst fears had come true.
The Official proposal with a ring came later.
Shay wanted it to be a suprise. He asked me out for dinner and said he wanted to stop by somewhere before dinner. Dead give away, Shay never liked to do anything before eating. It was top priority, so I was pretty sure this was it.
He took me to the park where we had gone on our first date. Just as the sun was setting. We sat on the same park bench and he got down on his knee.
Will you be my Eternal Companion?
He was so cute, I could barely stand it. And the aweful experience with my mom didn't matter. All that mattered was Shay and our future. He was my future.
I would love to.
And he put the ring on my finger. He wanted me to see all the rainbows that the ring could produce when the sun hit it. It was nice.
We were Officially Engaged. And we were off to dinner, Italian, my favorite.
Shay took me to meet his family. We had known each other for six weeks. I had already met his dad when he came for a visit. He was great, so I wasn't too nervous. We drove to Washington, his mom filmed part of the visit and looking back I can't help but wonder what they thought of me. I was SOOO young.
That night Shay was tucking me in on the couch. He got that look again. I gave him a minute before I finally asked him what he was thinking. "Well, I was just wondering what it would be like to be with you forever."
"I think that would be nice." I replied.
And just like that we were thinking we might just be getting married. I finally fell asleep with thoughts of white dresses and love eternal.
The next morning I woke feeling the same, but Shay seemed very nervous. Are we sure? Is this too fast?
We went on a walk and talked it out. Prayed and went home to tell his parents.
We came home to Provo. I called my Momma, she wasn't home. So we called my Daddy. They didn't really know I was dating anyone. I just never mentioned it, not knowing how it would turn out or if it would turn into anything. I had dated a couple of guys in Provo and didn't feel the need to mention everyone to my parents. With kids of my own and thinking of how it all went down, I am pretty sure I would react how my Momma did. My Dad took it really well. Does he have a temple recommend? Yes. Did he serve a Mission? Yes. Does he treat you well? Yes, very well. Have you prayed about it? Yes. Okay then.
It was almost so emotionless that I felt bad. But then we called my Momma and I was grateful for how my dad reacted.
We called my mom at church. She was helping with the scouts on Wednesday night. Now I wish I would have waited and called her at home, but I was anxious to tell her. My little brother Joseph went to get her. This is how it all went down.
Momma I am getting married
very calmly- You're lying to me
No momma I'm not
Less calmly- You're lying to me
No I'm not
Much less calmly and very loudly- YOU'RE LYING TO ME, repeated multiple times and dropping the phone.
Joseph- Momma she is not lying to you, just talk to her.
I am not going to talk to her right now, I will call her later.
Joseph please get her to call me at home so we can talk.
Joseph- okay.
Wow, typing it now makes my stomach hurt. I almost feel like crying. It was tough. But what else could I expect? She never wanted me to come to Provo in the first place. You will get married and never come home, she told me. I assured her that wouldn't happen and here I was telling her, her worst fears had come true.
The Official proposal with a ring came later.
Shay wanted it to be a suprise. He asked me out for dinner and said he wanted to stop by somewhere before dinner. Dead give away, Shay never liked to do anything before eating. It was top priority, so I was pretty sure this was it.
He took me to the park where we had gone on our first date. Just as the sun was setting. We sat on the same park bench and he got down on his knee.
Will you be my Eternal Companion?
He was so cute, I could barely stand it. And the aweful experience with my mom didn't matter. All that mattered was Shay and our future. He was my future.
I would love to.
And he put the ring on my finger. He wanted me to see all the rainbows that the ring could produce when the sun hit it. It was nice.
We were Officially Engaged. And we were off to dinner, Italian, my favorite.
Monday, July 12, 2010
Shay n Misty take 3
I didn't know Shays last name until we dated for 3-4 weeks. That wouldn't be so bad if we dated longer but we were engaged at 6 weeks of dating/knowing each other. When I found out what it was, I was super happy. Not such a bad name to marry into. I really liked my maiden name so it had to be a good one for me not to be sad. I have never looked back.
Shay told me he loved me pretty quick. I wasn't used to that. The guy always takes forever, and I was caught off guard. I told him thank you and it broke his heart. I think, actually I know because he told me later, he wanted to walk away after that, but he couldn't. I also told him I loved him too. I really wanted to say it when I was ready, but he needed to know I had those feelings as well.
Speaking of walking away, he actually tried multiple times. Like when he found out how old I was. I had JUST turned 19 weeks before he asked. He told me I was too young. He needed to think. He walked away again, when he found out I had a missionary. I actually slept with his shirt every night. That just about made him lose it. But every time he left he came back within 20 minutes. He said he couldn't convince himself to stay away. I sure am glad he came back.
I had an idea I would marry him after our second date. The spirit said your gonna marry him. I said no way, I have stuff I want to do. But over the next couple of weeks we saw each other every day. And I just felt like I didn't want to do any of that stuff without him.
He actually took me on a date to a deserted island with a picnic lunch. It was very thoughful since we had both put each others name down for being stuck on a deserted island, I still wouldn't want to be stuck with anyone else.
It is amazing that you think you love someone when you marry them. I sure thought I did. And I guess I did, as well as I knew how to love. I was so young. But when I think what Shay and I have gone through, having these amazing kids, kidney stones, losses and gains, I think I couldn't possibly have known love then, knowing how much I love him now. I am sure when I am 80, I will feel the same about my 30 yr old self that I now do about my 19 yr old self. I guess that is progression and you only know what you think you know. I think I know I sure am glad I picked Shay, he is amazing and talented, not to mention I still think he is dreamy!
Shay told me he loved me pretty quick. I wasn't used to that. The guy always takes forever, and I was caught off guard. I told him thank you and it broke his heart. I think, actually I know because he told me later, he wanted to walk away after that, but he couldn't. I also told him I loved him too. I really wanted to say it when I was ready, but he needed to know I had those feelings as well.
Speaking of walking away, he actually tried multiple times. Like when he found out how old I was. I had JUST turned 19 weeks before he asked. He told me I was too young. He needed to think. He walked away again, when he found out I had a missionary. I actually slept with his shirt every night. That just about made him lose it. But every time he left he came back within 20 minutes. He said he couldn't convince himself to stay away. I sure am glad he came back.
I had an idea I would marry him after our second date. The spirit said your gonna marry him. I said no way, I have stuff I want to do. But over the next couple of weeks we saw each other every day. And I just felt like I didn't want to do any of that stuff without him.
He actually took me on a date to a deserted island with a picnic lunch. It was very thoughful since we had both put each others name down for being stuck on a deserted island, I still wouldn't want to be stuck with anyone else.
It is amazing that you think you love someone when you marry them. I sure thought I did. And I guess I did, as well as I knew how to love. I was so young. But when I think what Shay and I have gone through, having these amazing kids, kidney stones, losses and gains, I think I couldn't possibly have known love then, knowing how much I love him now. I am sure when I am 80, I will feel the same about my 30 yr old self that I now do about my 19 yr old self. I guess that is progression and you only know what you think you know. I think I know I sure am glad I picked Shay, he is amazing and talented, not to mention I still think he is dreamy!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
The first date- Shay and Misty take 2
We left in Shays blue Toyota Tercel, I am not sure how he decided to take me to Arbys, but that is where we went. I guess he really wanted to show off for the first date. I wasn't too hungry, so I got a chocolate shake and he got a sandwich. I can't remember much of the conversation, I am sure he only understood half of what I was saying, since I literally had to spell several words because of my strong southern accent.
We then went to the park next to the temple, he of course made a fool of himself by doing two things. Number one, he called me my roommates name, which is also his mothers name. I did correct him, sorry that's my roommates name, did you take the wrong person out? But then I told him not to worry about it, we all do stupid things.
Number two, he tried to do the monkey bars and hurt himself pretty good. He kicked his shin into a bar. I had to tell him the stupid things line again, but he was cute, so I didn't mind too much.
After a while we went back to my apartment to listen to some music. I showed him all the stuff I loved, The Cure, The Smiths, Rancid, and multiple others. I now realize he must have really liked me, because he has since voiced his dislike for all these bands. But at the time, he seemed overly enthusiastic about each one.
He stayed until I gave him a kiss. A kiss on the first date, never you say! How could you! Well, just so you know, it was the best kiss I have ever had. It had all the qualities of the perfect kiss. It was magic. I know that sounds silly, but just thinking about it makes me smile. It was perfect in every way.
After the kiss, he left and I had sweet dreams of this new, cute, slightly flawed, wonderful guy from Washington who seemed to really like me. It was nice and I couldn't wait for more of him.
We then went to the park next to the temple, he of course made a fool of himself by doing two things. Number one, he called me my roommates name, which is also his mothers name. I did correct him, sorry that's my roommates name, did you take the wrong person out? But then I told him not to worry about it, we all do stupid things.
Number two, he tried to do the monkey bars and hurt himself pretty good. He kicked his shin into a bar. I had to tell him the stupid things line again, but he was cute, so I didn't mind too much.
After a while we went back to my apartment to listen to some music. I showed him all the stuff I loved, The Cure, The Smiths, Rancid, and multiple others. I now realize he must have really liked me, because he has since voiced his dislike for all these bands. But at the time, he seemed overly enthusiastic about each one.
He stayed until I gave him a kiss. A kiss on the first date, never you say! How could you! Well, just so you know, it was the best kiss I have ever had. It had all the qualities of the perfect kiss. It was magic. I know that sounds silly, but just thinking about it makes me smile. It was perfect in every way.
After the kiss, he left and I had sweet dreams of this new, cute, slightly flawed, wonderful guy from Washington who seemed to really like me. It was nice and I couldn't wait for more of him.
Thursday, July 8, 2010
I love being in love- Shay and Misty take 1
I kind of feel like falling in love. There is nothing like the feeling of meeting someone, liking them, liking them more, slowly learning about them, liking what you learn and realizing at some point that you may just love that person, then realizing for sure that you do. I have been feeling like falling in love with my man all over again.
I think we get comfortable with our companion and forget how much we love them, how we could not live without them, how they make our world better. This year is #12 for Shay and I. He is my dream man plus some. I do get mad at him sometimes and sometimes I give him reason to get mad at me, but he is amazing.
To fall in love again, I like to reminisce and remember how it all went down to begin with...
I first saw Shay at church. He was cute, but BYU was full of cute guys. To me there had to be more. He had on a pink and green tie. I walked by him after sacrament and said "nice tie", in my strong southern accent it sounded more like "niiice tyyye". And walked on, he was chatting with some other girls.
After church we were walking back and it started pouring, a few guys were running by our apartment, they were getting drenched so we told them to come in for a bit. It was Shay and a couple of his buddies. We invited them for a game called true colors. It is a question game and every one answers the question with the color of the person they think would most likely go with the question. Well one of the questions was, If you were on a deserted island what one other person would you want with you? Well to be honest it was between Shay and one of his buddies, they were both cute, I didn't know any of them, but I put Shay. He of course peeked to see who I put and was super excited to see his color, as I was told later. Shay also put my color in, as might I add did everyone else except one girl. When I asked my friend Holli why she put my color in, she said because I have skills and I would build her a shelter and get her food. That made me laugh.
Shay had mentioned that they were going to the Sunday night devotional in the commons later that night, so I decided to go. I was leaning towards Shay by then, because I had picked him for the island. I usually never went to that, but it was Shays birthday and they were spotlighting him and his buddy Dan. The guy I was dating at the time was upset because I wanted to go, he said you never go to those, I call him pretzel Mike now, he really liked pretzels.
We actually broke up on Wednesday. He said I had nothing else to do but follow him around. I think he had emotional issues stemming from childhood, but whatever.
Thursday, I was out in the commons when Shay showed up. I have to admit I was looking pretty cute because I was hoping Mike would see what he gave up. Shay had dropped by to see a friend. Just FYI Shay was not in our ward, he had just visited it. I deduced that he was checking out the girls in his new ward because he was moving into our ward in two months. Which meant he had exhausted his choices in his old ward. Later that was confirmed but not willingly. Shay was also sort of seeing someone in our ward, Sharon. I did not know this at the time and he denies it but the way she treated me later confirms my suspicions. Anyway, I had a Frisbee and he played with me for a bit before leaving.
Later that day a guy named Jared saw me and said "hey Misty, Shay called to get your number, maybe you should call him, I think he needed to borrow something." I was totally naive and thought he was serious about borrowing something, so I said "Okay, whats his number?"
I called him and this is what I got, "hey Shay, this is Misty, Jared said you needed something?" Shay "Uh, Uh," awkward silence " well, uh, I just wanted to see if you wanted to do something sometime?"
Me " Sure, what about tonight?"
Shay " Oh, Okay, great."
Shay picked me up, wearing his super tight white Levis shorts and blue shirt. I thought he was super cute, if I saw him now I might laugh, but then I thought he was dreamy. I actually might still think he was dreamy, but I like him so much more now.
The first official date on a later date!
I think we get comfortable with our companion and forget how much we love them, how we could not live without them, how they make our world better. This year is #12 for Shay and I. He is my dream man plus some. I do get mad at him sometimes and sometimes I give him reason to get mad at me, but he is amazing.
To fall in love again, I like to reminisce and remember how it all went down to begin with...
I first saw Shay at church. He was cute, but BYU was full of cute guys. To me there had to be more. He had on a pink and green tie. I walked by him after sacrament and said "nice tie", in my strong southern accent it sounded more like "niiice tyyye". And walked on, he was chatting with some other girls.
After church we were walking back and it started pouring, a few guys were running by our apartment, they were getting drenched so we told them to come in for a bit. It was Shay and a couple of his buddies. We invited them for a game called true colors. It is a question game and every one answers the question with the color of the person they think would most likely go with the question. Well one of the questions was, If you were on a deserted island what one other person would you want with you? Well to be honest it was between Shay and one of his buddies, they were both cute, I didn't know any of them, but I put Shay. He of course peeked to see who I put and was super excited to see his color, as I was told later. Shay also put my color in, as might I add did everyone else except one girl. When I asked my friend Holli why she put my color in, she said because I have skills and I would build her a shelter and get her food. That made me laugh.
Shay had mentioned that they were going to the Sunday night devotional in the commons later that night, so I decided to go. I was leaning towards Shay by then, because I had picked him for the island. I usually never went to that, but it was Shays birthday and they were spotlighting him and his buddy Dan. The guy I was dating at the time was upset because I wanted to go, he said you never go to those, I call him pretzel Mike now, he really liked pretzels.
We actually broke up on Wednesday. He said I had nothing else to do but follow him around. I think he had emotional issues stemming from childhood, but whatever.
Thursday, I was out in the commons when Shay showed up. I have to admit I was looking pretty cute because I was hoping Mike would see what he gave up. Shay had dropped by to see a friend. Just FYI Shay was not in our ward, he had just visited it. I deduced that he was checking out the girls in his new ward because he was moving into our ward in two months. Which meant he had exhausted his choices in his old ward. Later that was confirmed but not willingly. Shay was also sort of seeing someone in our ward, Sharon. I did not know this at the time and he denies it but the way she treated me later confirms my suspicions. Anyway, I had a Frisbee and he played with me for a bit before leaving.
Later that day a guy named Jared saw me and said "hey Misty, Shay called to get your number, maybe you should call him, I think he needed to borrow something." I was totally naive and thought he was serious about borrowing something, so I said "Okay, whats his number?"
I called him and this is what I got, "hey Shay, this is Misty, Jared said you needed something?" Shay "Uh, Uh," awkward silence " well, uh, I just wanted to see if you wanted to do something sometime?"
Me " Sure, what about tonight?"
Shay " Oh, Okay, great."
Shay picked me up, wearing his super tight white Levis shorts and blue shirt. I thought he was super cute, if I saw him now I might laugh, but then I thought he was dreamy. I actually might still think he was dreamy, but I like him so much more now.
The first official date on a later date!
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